Lessons From Rehab- Volume Eight

The last few months have been very rewarding for me.  This shoulder rehabilitation has challenged me both physically and spiritually.  It has allowed me to take the common aspects of therapy and see the greater value in each step I have taken.  I have enjoyed sharing this little journey with you.  It has allowed me to get into a rhythm of reflecting and writing.  This is a discipline that I have needed to create because there is a new assignment ahead of us.  For now, this will be the last of my Lessons From Rehab series.

Because:    Carol and I have received instruction from the Holy Spirit to push forward with our first book.  For quite some time I have struggled with the obedience and the confidence to follow through with this mission.  The fact is, after 20 years of working with men and women in the area of marriage and family, we have learned many dynamic Biblical truths.  The redemption we have experienced in our lives is an undeserved gift that we want to pass on to as many as possible. We are hoping our lessons will have value for others and marriages can be strengthened.

Our first (I believe there will be more) book will be on habits that destroy or build strong marriages.  I did a video series on these seven habits a couple of years ago.  The Lord told me at that time that I had the outline and the foundation for our first book.  I didn’t listen to Him.  I am listening now.  The videos can be seen on our website.  I will be sharing parts of the book on this blog over the next few weeks.  I would love your feedback.  Please pray for us as we venture down this road.  We are still trying to figure out the financial piece of this puzzle.

Valuing Camaraderie 

  There is nothing worse for me than working out alone.  Even if I have a scheduled regime that I plan on following, it most likely won’t happen.  I can have the very best intention, motivation, and strategy, yet when left to myself….I typically fall short.  It’s embarrassing to admit this, yet it is so true.  At my core, I’m a lazy slacker who will quit when it gets tough.  This part of my lower nature is a hinderance to me in all aspects of my life.  That is why the Lord has been faithful to surround us with comrades to keep us company and help us stay in the fight.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:” Ecclesiastes 4:9

  When I workout, whether it is in the gym, pool or the physical therapist, I am much more energetic because I’m not alone.  Every morning at 5 a.m., I wake up to go to the pool to swim with a group of people that I don’t really know.  We swim together for an hour each day, five days a week.  But other than sharing a lane or a gasping breath amidst the chlorine, our paths in life do not cross.  Even though we have no other connection, they make me  stronger and work harder than I would otherwise. Our coach said the other day, “I’m here to make you do what you wouldn’t do on your own.”

We are better when we find community, connection and unity.  To me, that means I am more valuable, useful and stronger when I am in fellowship.  We are more productive, influential, and  profitable as we cooperate with God’s design for unity.  Our efforts are multiplied as we work together.

  • Study the word with a group or just a friend.
  • Meet regularly with others for strength and direction.
  • Have someone you can be very honest with.
  • Create an accountability partner to help battle the dark areas of your life.

“If one falls down, his friend can help him up.  But pity the man who  falls and has no one to help him up!”  Ecclesiastes 4:10

  One of the enemy’s greatest tactics in our struggle against darkness, is to isolate the Christian.  If we allow ourselves to drift from togetherness, we are at our most vulnerable to the enemy’s strategy.  When I’m struggling in a workout, it’s helpful to look around and see others battling also.  As I’m swimming next to someone, it always gives me that extra incentive to try harder.  I have a confession: there might be a little competitive streak in me….I know it’s not a godly trait and I’m working on it.  Honestly, I’m a really slow swimmer.  So when I try to keep up with faster athletes, they typically pick up their pace to prevent me from hanging with them.  I bear down and try to stay close.  At the end of the set, it’s satisfying to know that I pushed myself beyond my natural ability.  That is how friends pick us up, and why I desire to stay in their wake.  We challenge each other.

Have you ever felt like giving up?   your marriage?  your job?  friendships? your faith? I think we all struggle with wanting to quit in different areas of our life.  Perseverance usually requires the assistance of those closest to us.  We have to be willing to reach out and receive the grace our allies have stored up for us.

The easiest way I have found to get myself out of the dumps is this;  find someone else that needs a hand and encourage them.  Let the spirit of God use you to build someone else’s confidence and see what happens to you. Amen.


  1. Thrilled! THRILLED! Can’t wait. :D :D

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